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Overcoming the Triad of Negative Valence Self-Conscious Emotions

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Shame, Guilt, Embarrassment: How to Overcome the Triad of Negative Valence "Self-conscious" Emotions - Moral Standards and Moral Behaviour Suck by Ana Leen (Difficult Discussions)

by Ana Leen

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Self-conscious emotions are feelings that arise when we focus on ourselves and our performance or behavior. These emotions can be either positive or negative. Negative valence self-conscious emotions, such as moral shame, social anxiety, and performance apprehension, are associated with feelings of inadequacy, worthlessness, and fear.

The triad of negative valence self-conscious emotions is a particularly difficult challenge to overcome. These emotions are often interconnected, and they can feed off of each other to create a vicious cycle. For example, someone who feels moral shame about their past behavior may become socially anxious about being judged by others. This social anxiety can then lead to performance apprehension, which can make it even more difficult to overcome the moral shame.

However, there are several strategies that can be used to overcome the triad of negative valence self-conscious emotions. These strategies include:

Self-Compassion

Self-compassion is the practice of treating ourselves with kindness and understanding, even when we make mistakes. It involves being gentle with ourselves, forgiving ourselves for our shortcomings, and accepting ourselves for who we are. Self-compassion can help to reduce the negative valence of self-conscious emotions by providing us with a sense of self-worth and acceptance.

There are several ways to practice self-compassion, such as:

Talking to ourselves in a kind and supportive way
Forgiving ourselves for our mistakes
Accepting ourselves for who we are, both the good and the bad
Spending time with people who make us feel good about ourselves
ng things that make us happy

Cognitive Reframing

Cognitive reframing is a technique that involves changing the way we think about our thoughts and experiences. When we have negative self-conscious thoughts, we can reframe them into more positive or neutral thoughts. For example, instead of thinking "I'm such a failure," we can think "I'm ng the best I can."

Cognitive reframing can help to reduce the negative valence of self-conscious emotions by changing the way we interpret our experiences. By reframing our thoughts, we can see our challenges as opportunities for growth and learning.

Exposure Therapy

Exposure therapy is a type of therapy that involves gradually exposing ourselves to the things that we fear. For example, someone who has social anxiety may start by going to a small social gathering, and then gradually work up to larger and more challenging social situations.

Exposure therapy can help to reduce the negative valence of self-conscious emotions by gradually habituating us to the things that we fear. By repeatedly facing our fears, we can learn that they are not as threatening as we thought.

Overcoming the triad of negative valence self-conscious emotions can be a challenging task, but it is possible. By using strategies such as self-compassion, cognitive reframing, and exposure therapy, we can learn to manage our negative emotions and live more fulfilling lives.

Shame, Guilt, Embarrassment: How to Overcome the Triad of Negative Valence "Self-conscious" Emotions - Moral Standards and Moral Behaviour Suck by Ana Leen (Difficult Discussions)

by Ana Leen

4.6 out of 5